I was on my way to celebrate my brother’s promotion within the FDNY to lieutenant when The Wife called me to tell that she bought a bed for our son, but not to worry “she saved a ton.”  It took me a minute to calm down and figure out what was happening.  I originally thought that this phone call was in reference to the fact that The Wife wanted/needed/pleaded for a king size bed ($3K+).  I later learned that the phone call was in reference to a $600 mattress and box spring for our son.  While the discovery diffused my annoyance I still was little put back that The Wife spent $600 without even a phone call to me.

Side note: Kind of weird that my little boy is making the move from a toddler bed to a full bed that he’ll have for years!  He looks so damn tiny in this bed.  Makes me want to sing cats in the cradle.

Do You have a Spending Cap with Your Spouse?

I don’t want to give the wrong impression, the conversation wasn’t a fight, but it did make  me wonder if couples out there have an intentional conversation as to a “spending cap.”  A few years ago, I wrote that The Wife as my greatest asset, and for the reasons within that post I never really felt the need to have this conversation.  I also don’t think the conversation has to happen now, I just voiced my opinion that a $600 purchase should have been talked about.  Not sure if she was serious or not, but she claimed that this situation was the same as the fact that I spend $500 to $1,000 a month investing in our dividend investment portfolio.  I ignored the argument as it is obviously different!


My boy LOVES his new bed! He’ll tell anyone that listens that he now has a big boy bed.


I am curious who has had these types of agreements with their spouse or significant other?