Last week, The Wife started to say things like, “Wow, that Keurig coffee maker seems really cool!” I thought nothing of it since we have two coffee makers, one we got as a gift at her bridal shower and another she received to test out on her blog. Both have cool features like built in bean grinding and espresso making (not that we figured out how to make an espresso), so why would I think that something is “cool” means we need to replace not one but two machines. Not much of a hint right? Most wives are probably shaking their heads right now, but if you have read any of my stuff you probably already know I can be thick.
But then The Wife and I had a conversation that I really appreciated (she may disagree how it happened but this is how I remembered it):
The Wife: We are buying the Keurig
Me: Again, with the cups…jebus woman we already have 2 machines? We don’t need it (yes I sometimes use the words jebus and woman)
The Wife: I Just Want It
For the first time I can think of in our 10 year relationship (we have dated since college) she didn’t try to [poorly] justify the purchase, and I really actually appreciated it! For any of you that have been following me for years, yes, this is the same The Wife that told me I can’t afford things I obviously can afford (linking to that post is a direct jab at The Wife lol).
Disclaimer: I have stated almost 3 years ago that The Wife is my Greatest Asset and that she almost never just wants to buy things unneeded ‘things’ unless they are ridiculous decorative pieces that go on a shelf somewhere. My bookshelf has random baskets, words, this weird leaf looking thing…oh yeah and 7 books.
Why Did I Appreciate The I Want It
Despite not really bringing up the subject with friends and family I am surrounded by Money Talk almost all the time. I go to the office where I work with high net worth individuals usually on estate and business succession planning, but sometimes I get pulled into a budget conversation. It doesn’t matter if you make $46,000 or $460,000 if you spend it all your net worth will not be growing, at least not in the short term (and probably not in the long term). I then come home and read and comment on personal finance blogs.
It eats me alive inside when I read a blog written by someone who is obviously in money trouble and they talk about purchasing a table, a bag, a new computer, a new cell phone, etc. and like the high net worth individual they try to justify the purchase with stupid idioms like
- I deserve it
- I work hard
- I have been really good lately
- I need it
You want to know what I really believe/question:
- While I agree some people need a nice car 92% of newer cars are nice and will get you from point A to point B you don’t need to buy German
- What did Moms do without the almighty SUV?
- Almost every smart phone on the market has an App store you don’t need an iPhone
- Every computer on the market will get you on the internet you don’t need a Mac/better PC equivalent
- 3d TV – are you really above LED?
- Your $150/month gym has the same treadmill as the $30/month gym since that is all you use anyway
While if you do some of the things I don’t believe you should complain about money, I don’t judge the purchase…I have my smart phone, I will eventually upgrade my computer before I need to, I belong to a gym that I don’t need…but I buy these because I want them and can afford them and that right is there is why I really appreciated The Wife just saying to me I want the Keurig.
What I do judge is the justification for the purchase.
/me jumping off my high horse