I was at my Sister in Law’s wedding in Philadelphia a couple weeks ago when someone started asking me about New York Weddings. She had said that she heard they were “different” and wanted to know what made them different from the rest of the country. I wasn’t going to write this post but then I saw a post over about weddings from a phenomenal blogger who I have little in common with but is awesome. Ramit from I will Teach You To be Rich fame has a great post on how to pay for expensive weddings.
Four caveats. First, I will not say New York weddings are better…they just seem to be different. Second these three differences are just my experiences and apply mostly to New York City and the surrounding areas – think Northern NJ, Long Island, NYC and all the boroughs. I have only been to a handful of weddings outside the NYC area so I have no idea what they are like outside those few so please share. Third, despite living on Long Island my lovely wife and her family are from Pennsylvania so I got married down there but we had all of these features. Fourth, I am not saying any feature is necessary for an amazing wedding these are just my observations.
What Makes a New York Wedding Different?
There is always an Open Bar
Every wedding in New York I have been No questions asked there is an open bar at the wedding. It is usually done as an add on so if it is $XX or $XXX/plate then it will be another amount for open bar on top of that. For example when you go to book at it is $100/plate then you will have an option to make it $110/plate for beer, wine and bottom shelf liquor or maybe it’ll be $115/plate for top shelf (I totally made up that $100/plate number).
There is Either a DJ or Band
The DJ vs. Band decision is a personal decision but I have never been to a wedding in the NY area without at least one of them. A good band could be thousands more than a great DJ. I personally prefer DJs because I hate 70s dance music. At my wedding we had this cool DJ that had a drummer with them, sounded great for songs with a good amount of bass.
Courses are Spread out
This is one of the only differences that I believe should be necessary at all weddings. New York Weddings will have you eat, dance then eat, then dance. Every wedding I have been to outside New York forces you to eat all courses first and then tells you after inhaling 3 courses worth of food to go dance. It is horrible, I am full tired, and haven’t taken advantage of the open bar enough lol. The Wife and I actually had to fight with the place where we got married to make sure this was followed.